Part 1 of How To Get Laid: Captain Cringe
You could have dubbed myself captain cringe when I first started going to bars and clubs.
My wingmen were also squeamish. It was a clown show, to be sure.
But one night, I met a fascinating British man who knew how to work a woman. I witnessed what he did, and I watched how he went about approaching ladies.
He would grab many girl’s numbers every night and pull girls on a regular basis (hot girls, by the way). “What’s the difference between this charismatic man who’s killing it and me, this cringey guy who sucks?” I wondered.
He did something that the vast majority of guys who learn about game don’t do, it turns out.
It may appear to be very simple, but once you start performing it, you will notice a significant difference in the types of outcomes you obtain.
Here’s how he went about it:
He’d go out and approach a girl, have a good time, laugh, and tell jokes to girls he wasn’t even interested in. He, on the other hand, would approach girls without reluctance on a regular basis.
He wouldn’t stay outside an interaction for more than a few minutes.
He’d return to his friends after doing approaches and shoot the shit for a while, but for the most part, he’d just approach a girl, leave the interaction, see another girl and approach her, and so on.
I noticed that he would get into this state, an outgoing, expressive, charismatic state where everyone was magnetically drawn to him.
It got to the point where when we would walk between clubs he had fangirls who would follow him, and some of these girls were attractive (they were the kind of girls I wished I was getting), but to him, they were below him, “I don’t know why these girls keep following me, it’s kind of annoying.”
When I went out, on the other hand, I did the following:
I would spend about 15 minutes building up the courage to approach a girl. And the first approach would usually be pretty awkward. Then, I would get upset and go back to think about what happened,
“Why do I suck?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“Does game really work?”
Every time I approached a girl, my mood would get worse. I would wait 10, 20, even 30 minutes before mustering up the courage to do another approach. Then, that approach would also go poorly, and my state throughout the course of the night would slowly go down.
Once I realized the difference between my wingman and me, I tried implementing his strategy.
I went out one night with the agenda of doing a lot of approaches without hesitation.
By the end of the night, girls were starting to tell me things like, “You’re really charismatic,” “You’re hilarious,” etc.
I was getting compliments that I had never gotten in my life before. I entered a state of total confidence.
I repeatedly practiced this method of approaching a lot without taking much time between approaches, and I realized that I was pulling hot girls consistently because:
A. I would end up getting into a state the felt like entering god mode in which attracting women was effortless.
B. Throughout the course of a night, I would meet 20 or 30 women instead of 5 to 10. By rolling the dice more, it was more likely I would meet a girl I had natural chemistry with.
The concept of approaching a lot of women and getting into a good state is known as building social momentum.
You might have heard of this concept, but it doesn’t get talked about a lot anymore.
That’s unfortunate because social momentum is incredibly powerful. You reach a point where you don’t care what people think about you, you have no negative thoughts about yourself or others, and you’re completely in the zone.
It’s almost like you’re watching yourself from a third-person perspective. You realize you’re doing and saying things you could never do in a normal state. You’ll think, “How did I become so confident, how am I so bold and unrestrained?”
It’s an amazing feeling; I’d even say a lot of times, getting into god mode is more rewarding than sleeping with a beautiful girl. That state is addictive; it’s like a drug. The best part is that you can get into god mode consistently if you take the right action steps.
The most important part of that is to spend less time between your interactions. When you go out don’t spend 30 minutes between approach, try spending less than two minutes between each approach and see what happens by the end do the night.
If you do this a few times, your perspective of what game is and what you are capable of and the kinds of results you should be expecting will completely shift. It will completely change everything.
Sadly, very few guys know how to build social momentum, but it isn’t super complicated, it’s about taking enough action that the logical part of your brain shuts off and gives up on trying to stop you from approaching or giving you negative thoughts.
To learn more about how to enter god mode, check out my online course, The Five Pillars of Game. In it, there is a module that gives you a complete step-by-step breakdown for how to destroy any anxiety or discomfort you’re feeling and enter a state of earth-shattering self-confidence, whenever you want to.
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